People who kept posting about the breakup for longer were doing worse a year later. Talking is fine. Living inside the story has a cost.
Source: Seraj, Blackburn & Pennebaker, 2021FOR WHEN IT’S BEEN A WHILE.
Months later, and it still hurts.
Everyone else seems to have moved on, and you’re embarrassed you haven’t. You’re not broken. Something is still feeding the story, and that part can change, starting today.
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SOUND FAMILIAR?
You’re not the only one who knows these moments.
Tap the ones that sound like you. Nothing is saved.
THE HONEST NUMBERS
No scare tactics. Just what the research says.
When a relationship ends, your sense of who you are gets measurably blurrier, which helps explain the pain. It can be rebuilt.
Source: Slotter, Gardner & Finkel, 2010In over a million posts, breakup language peaked the week of the split and drifted back near baseline around 6 months. A group average, not a deadline.
Source: Seraj, Blackburn & Pennebaker, 2021WHY IT’S HARD
It’s not time that’s missing. It’s space.
Time helps when the reminders stop. When they don’t, through checking, retelling or waiting for a sign, the pain stays fresh no matter how many months pass.
Your plan is about building something bigger than the story: fewer reminders, a better way to talk about it, and daily steps to rediscover the routines, people and plans that are yours.
WHAT CHANGES WITH NEWLEAVES
Every hard moment gets a plan.
Replaying “why” and “what if”
Short, bounded reflections that end, instead of loops that don’t
Hard dates and anniversaries
A plan for the loud days, written before they arrive
Not knowing who you are now
Daily practices to rebuild routines, friendships and confidence
START YOUR PLAN · QUESTION 1 OF ABOUT 20
What brought you here today?
Pick one and your plan starts building. There’s no wrong answer.
YOUR FIRST WEEK
Ten minutes a day. One small step each.
Here’s how your first seven days look. Your plan adapts to your answers.
- Day 1This hurts because it mattered: one rule by the charger
- Day 2Stop the doses: mute, archive, and move the photos
- Day 3A plan for the nights, when it is loudest
- Day 4Write the message, and put it in the unsent vault instead
- Day 5One friend who knows the plan, not the whole story again
- Day 6Eat, sleep, daylight: the body is part of the heartbreak
- Day 7A week of no contact: notice what got a little quieter
GOOD QUESTIONS
Before you
start.
There’s no deadline for feelings. Ninety days is long enough to stop the checking and build a life that’s bigger than their reply.
No. No trial shows silence makes someone come back. No contact is for you: checking and reaching out keep the hurt going.
Rowan, the optional AI companion, is there for the 2 a.m. minutes. It’s clearly an AI, not a person or a therapist, and it points you to real help when things are heavy.
Yes. Build your plan here in about two minutes, create an account, and start day 1 in your browser. Then sign in to the app with the same email and everything is there.
Building your plan is free. Full access starts with a free trial, and the price and renewal terms are shown clearly before you pay anything. Cancel anytime.
Your answers are saved to your own account and are never sent to advertisers. You choose whether to share anonymous analytics. Delete your account at any time.
No. NewLeaves is a self-guided daily companion, not therapy, medical treatment or an emergency service. Rowan is an optional AI companion, not a clinician.
NOT A PERFECT DAY. JUST DAY ONE.
Stop living in the story. Start writing the next one.
Build your plan on the web in about two minutes, then take it with you in the app.
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