Actively looking at an ex’s social media predicted more distress that day and the next. One look can cost two days.
Source: Marshall, 2026FOR THE STORY YOU WATCHED AGAIN.
One look at their page. Two days of hurt.
You know it makes it worse. You check anyway: their stories, who they follow, when they were last online. That isn’t weakness. It’s a craving loop, and loops can be broken.
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SOUND FAMILIAR?
You’re not the only one who knows these moments.
Tap the ones that sound like you. Nothing is saved.
THE HONEST NUMBERS
No scare tactics. Just what the research says.
In 464 people, watching an ex’s Facebook page went with more distress, more longing and less personal growth, even allowing for real-life contact.
Source: Marshall, 2012People still intensely in love were scanned an average of 63 days after being rejected, and their craving circuits still lit up. If it hurts at two months, you’re on a known path.
Source: Fisher et al., 2010WHY IT’S HARD
Checking feels like relief. It works like a craving.
Distress makes you check, and checking feeds the distress. Apps keep the archive open long after the relationship ends, so the loop never gets a chance to quiet down.
The plan makes checking harder and the urge easier to ride: mute and archive on day 2, a 60-second tool for the pull, and a no-contact counter that grows every day you don’t look.
WHAT CHANGES WITH NEWLEAVES
Every hard moment gets a plan.
Opening their profile without thinking
A day-2 checklist: mute, archive, move photos, log out
The pull that won’t go away
The urge tool: rate it, breathe, pick a tool, rate it again
Needing to know what they’re doing
A daily prompt that brings the attention back to your own day
START YOUR PLAN · QUESTION 1 OF ABOUT 20
What brought you here today?
Pick one and your plan starts building. There’s no wrong answer.
YOUR FIRST WEEK
Ten minutes a day. One small step each.
Here’s how your first seven days look. Your plan adapts to your answers.
- Day 1This hurts because it mattered: one rule by the charger
- Day 2Stop the doses: mute, archive, and move the photos
- Day 3A plan for the nights, when it is loudest
- Day 4Write the message, and put it in the unsent vault instead
- Day 5One friend who knows the plan, not the whole story again
- Day 6Eat, sleep, daylight: the body is part of the heartbreak
- Day 7A week of no contact: notice what got a little quieter
GOOD QUESTIONS
Before you
start.
There’s no deadline for feelings. Ninety days is long enough to stop the checking and build a life that’s bigger than their reply.
No. No trial shows silence makes someone come back. No contact is for you: checking and reaching out keep the hurt going.
Rowan, the optional AI companion, is there for the 2 a.m. minutes. It’s clearly an AI, not a person or a therapist, and it points you to real help when things are heavy.
Yes. Build your plan here in about two minutes, create an account, and start day 1 in your browser. Then sign in to the app with the same email and everything is there.
Building your plan is free. Full access starts with a free trial, and the price and renewal terms are shown clearly before you pay anything. Cancel anytime.
Your answers are saved to your own account and are never sent to advertisers. You choose whether to share anonymous analytics. Delete your account at any time.
No. NewLeaves is a self-guided daily companion, not therapy, medical treatment or an emergency service. Rowan is an optional AI companion, not a clinician.
NOT A PERFECT DAY. JUST DAY ONE.
The next check is the one you don’t make.
Build your plan on the web in about two minutes, then take it with you in the app.
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